Just for Boys
Guy Stuff
Welcome to the section of the website where only boys are allowed. This is where you can find the answers to questions you would normally not ask around girls.
What do you do when your girlfriend wants to you to show some emotion? Boys don't cry, or so the old addage goes, but why is that? Most guys don't like to let others know that they can be vulnerable too. Expression of emotions is healthy for relationships. Boys sometimes feel compelled to keep things in, but as long as the emotions are controlled, it's good to shed a few tears.
"Girls are so emotional!" At least that's how most boys feel. However, most girls feel like guys are 'under' emotional. This just means boys and girls need to communicate clearly their differences. Boys and girls communicate differently and for different reasons. Boys don't need be afraid to show the emotions they are experiencing.
"Girls are so emotional!" At least that's how most boys feel. However, most girls feel like guys are 'under' emotional. This just means boys and girls need to communicate clearly their differences. Boys and girls communicate differently and for different reasons. Boys don't need be afraid to show the emotions they are experiencing.
How to Deal
How to deal with anger? Anger can be go-to emotion for some guys. Anger CAN be a healthy emotion, as long as its exerted in a healthy way. Learning how to control anger is essential to making friends and preventing violence. Make sure anger is never taken out on people or pets. Identify the ways you can 'cool off' by taking a walk, exercising, or taking deep breaths. Anger should never be used to control or manipulate others, so find alternative ways to help you think through it.
I finally got this girl's number that I've liked forever. But now that I have it, I don't know when I should call her. Isn't there a standard waiting period?
Some guys say wait a week. Some guys say wait at least 24 hours. let's say that at least 24 hours is in order, but even easier than guessing, why don't you ask her when a good time to call is for her? Not only does that start your relationship with open communication, whatever it may be; but it also allows a little insight into what her days look like, and consideration on your part.
My girlfriend and I have been together 4 months. She hates my best friend, Sarah, who I've been friends with for 2 years. I want them to get along, but my girlfriend constantly accuses of me of cheating with Sarah. There's nothing going on with her! How do I get my girlfriend to understand? Confused
Your girlfriend should respect your friendships, whether they're with guys or girls. Sounds to me like she may be insecure about the relationship you have with your friend. You and your girlfriend should talk about it, without yelling or arguing. Try to get them to hang out in a neutral territory (bowling, or mini golf). They might find they have a lot in common. If that doesn't work, you may want to reassess the relationship you have with your girlfriend. Jealousy and control are signs of an unhealthy relationship.
I finally got this girl's number that I've liked forever. But now that I have it, I don't know when I should call her. Isn't there a standard waiting period?
Some guys say wait a week. Some guys say wait at least 24 hours. let's say that at least 24 hours is in order, but even easier than guessing, why don't you ask her when a good time to call is for her? Not only does that start your relationship with open communication, whatever it may be; but it also allows a little insight into what her days look like, and consideration on your part.
My girlfriend and I have been together 4 months. She hates my best friend, Sarah, who I've been friends with for 2 years. I want them to get along, but my girlfriend constantly accuses of me of cheating with Sarah. There's nothing going on with her! How do I get my girlfriend to understand? Confused
Your girlfriend should respect your friendships, whether they're with guys or girls. Sounds to me like she may be insecure about the relationship you have with your friend. You and your girlfriend should talk about it, without yelling or arguing. Try to get them to hang out in a neutral territory (bowling, or mini golf). They might find they have a lot in common. If that doesn't work, you may want to reassess the relationship you have with your girlfriend. Jealousy and control are signs of an unhealthy relationship.
What is Healthy & Unhealthly?
Girls view texting and phone conversations as a vital part of a relationship. They sometimes view constant contact as a sign of a strong relationship. However, constant texts and checking-up is not as good as it may seem. In fact, this may be a sign of an unhealthy relationship. You and your girlfriend should talk about what is an appropriate number of texts and phone calls per day for both of you. Both you and she should be respectful of each other's busy schedules. Be open about it, and talk about it before it becomes a problem.
Guys and girls both characterize healthy relationships as sharing time and minor problems, and getting to know your partner. However, when asked who they talk to when they have relationships' minor problems, its not usually their partner. It's good to learn from those who have experienced similar issues before, but the details of your disputes should not leak into the mainstream. If your minor problems can be solved by talking to one another and gaining perspective, that is the best resolution. ALWAYS REPORT ABUSE TO AN ADULT.
Guys and girls both characterize healthy relationships as sharing time and minor problems, and getting to know your partner. However, when asked who they talk to when they have relationships' minor problems, its not usually their partner. It's good to learn from those who have experienced similar issues before, but the details of your disputes should not leak into the mainstream. If your minor problems can be solved by talking to one another and gaining perspective, that is the best resolution. ALWAYS REPORT ABUSE TO AN ADULT.