Teen Relationships
Teen Relationships
How is your relationship? What is a healthy relationship?
A healthy relationship is a bond between two people who treat each other with respect. What do you need to build a healthy relationship?Is this abuse?
Abuse signs in a relationshionships are not a onetime incident, they usually come in a cycle. This cycle explains why teens and adults stay in abusive relationships. Check it out: Download The Cycle of Violence PDFIs this love?
If you are in an abusive relationship, your partner might tell you that he/she loves you. But really he/she is using power and control to hurt you and to keep you in the relationship. You are smart and capable of making your own decisions. Check this power and control wheel and see if you are in an abusive relationship: View Power and Control WheelBreaking up
Do you want to break up? Once you decide to break up, you need to be aware that breaking up is the most dangerous time. Your safety might be at risk. What can you do?For tips on how to break up safely click here.
To create a safety plan download this form and follow the instructions: Safety Plan
A Healthy Relationship
A healthy relationship means that both you and your partner are...
Communicating
You talk openly about problems without shouting or yelling. You listen to one another, hear each other out, respect each others opinions, and are willing to compromise.
Respectful
You value each other as you are. Culture, beliefs, opinions and boundaries are valued. You treat each other in a way that demonstrates the high esteem you hold for one another.
Trusting
You both trust each other, and the trust has been earned.
Honest
You are both honest with each other but can still choose to keep certain things private.
Equal
You make decisions together and you hold each other to the same standards.
Enjoy Personal Space
You both enjoy spending time apart and respect when one of you voices a need for space.
Make decisions together about how to build a healthy relationship
You talk openly about important decisions together. You both can talk about what is ok and what isn't and the possible consequences together.
Communicating
You talk openly about problems without shouting or yelling. You listen to one another, hear each other out, respect each others opinions, and are willing to compromise.
Respectful
You value each other as you are. Culture, beliefs, opinions and boundaries are valued. You treat each other in a way that demonstrates the high esteem you hold for one another.
Trusting
You both trust each other, and the trust has been earned.
Honest
You are both honest with each other but can still choose to keep certain things private.
Equal
You make decisions together and you hold each other to the same standards.
Enjoy Personal Space
You both enjoy spending time apart and respect when one of you voices a need for space.
Make decisions together about how to build a healthy relationship
You talk openly about important decisions together. You both can talk about what is ok and what isn't and the possible consequences together.
An Unhealthy Relationship
An unhealthy relationship starts when even just one of you is...
Not communicating
Problems are discussed calmly, or not talked about at all. You don't listen to each other or try to compromise.
Disrespectful
One or both partners are inconsiderate toward the other.
Not trusting
There is suspicion that your partner is doing things behind your back, or your partner is suspicious of your loyalty without reason.
Dishonest
One or both partners are telling lies to each other.
Trying to take control
One or both partners sees their desires or decisions as more important.
Feeling smothered or forgetting to spend time with others
So much time is spent together that one partner is beginning to feel uncomfortable. Or sometimes both partners spend so much time together that they ignore friends, family or other things that used to be important to them.
Not communicating
Problems are discussed calmly, or not talked about at all. You don't listen to each other or try to compromise.
Disrespectful
One or both partners are inconsiderate toward the other.
Not trusting
There is suspicion that your partner is doing things behind your back, or your partner is suspicious of your loyalty without reason.
Dishonest
One or both partners are telling lies to each other.
Trying to take control
One or both partners sees their desires or decisions as more important.
Feeling smothered or forgetting to spend time with others
So much time is spent together that one partner is beginning to feel uncomfortable. Or sometimes both partners spend so much time together that they ignore friends, family or other things that used to be important to them.